Abandonment.Gut wrenching. Knee buckling.So many of us know its metallic taste, its blood on our tongues.The faces at the schoolyard when it’s just us again.The dance class, the recital, the sports game when he shows up foul mouthed and glassy eyed.Trips to the emergency room when she is climbing out of a moving car.Hungry days
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I have a friend who when asked by me if he would mind doing something will take a pause, RIPE with hesitation, and then draw ever so slowly from his resounding pause a throaty preamble that sounds like eeeuhhhh…culminating in a loud “SURE”. Now I am telling you in confidence that if I was to get
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Last week we talked about divorce. Today we’re going to answer the gazillion dollar question should we get married in the first place? This question alone can mean so many things.Is the institution itself sound, sane, meaningful, successful, necessary, beneficial? Is it a con by the government, one of many avenues to exert control? Is
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Through her veil the room is softened, the lilies dusted eyelet white. Candles glimmer, expectant faces embrace her. She is captured in sepia, ethereal and soft, gliding toward him lifted by wings. He waits, solemn, her soldier. The room can feel him quake, just a little. A rumble, low in the ground. His hands stick
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Don’t say these 5 things! (5 Do’s and don’ts of supportive communication).When someone we care about is upset it can feel, well upsetting, for so many complicated nuanced reasons. Sometimes they are upset with us and that is never fun (Miss Piggy says who, MOI?). Sometimes they are upset with us AND we may have
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So much attention around dating and relationship goes to the Red Flag. The warning signs that we shoulda woulda coulda paid attention to –but didn’t. And then it was a year or five or twenty later and we were belly crawling out of the Love Trenches, getting airlifted out of The Rabbit Hole, resetting the
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Shit happens. Shit happening leads to conflict. They make you mad. They hurt your feelings. They don’t wipe the crumbs off the counter when they KNOW how much crumbs bug you and how hard it was for you to ask for the crumb cleaning when you were so afraid of being seen as an OCD
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In the spirit of full moons and eclipses please enjoy this jewel.I listen, and have listened, not just to what is wrong in your lives— where you hurt, get stuck, struggle, where old wounds won’t heal and you can’t seem to turn a corner— and I dig in where the shame is and we pour
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Last time Dear Reader we talked about the radical idea that there are things we need from ourselves, things we need from our romantic partner, and things our romantic relationship needs and why it’s important to know the difference between the three. If I am dating you it won’t work if I expect you to
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