Today, is the big V day. The day we want to be spending with our beloved, either dining and romancing, slurping the same noodle until we unexpectedly lock lips, or avoiding the commercial trappings of capitalism in a united sarcastic front with our paramour while we Netflix and chill, preferably with a war flick. Oh right, Netflix and chill doesn’t really signify chilling or movie time. It’s code for sex. I learned that from my kids. I also recently learned that a keg stand is an actual handstand that is performed while beer drinking in order to, oh I dunno, get drunk faster I guess. Although if you need to turn your body upside down to accelerate your consumption, I recommend switching to something higher proof. Whisky, or tequila, or Russian grain alcohol should do the trick. It’s less work teenagers. I guess, in truth, it’s about keeping the relationship with beer passionate and fresh, which brings us back to actual relationships.
For some of us, we only DREAM of that date, or anti-date, or ironic date, or swear it off while secretly reading our love fortune from those sweet tart candies with hopeful messages like “more than friends” or “hot stuff” (if that’s you try hitting me up for some intuitive guidance to light you up or steer you along). And then there are some of us who are decidedly abstaining from love, romance and romantic relationships of all kind and I have a flow chart for you that directs you to the next blog with a “not suitable for all audiences” warning on this one.
If you yearn for love, even it’s just on your “bad days”, or your lonely days, or even if you manage to overcome it Monday through Thursday, even if it feels like a fall from COOLVILLE to admit it, well then I would like to take a moment to celebrate you.
We may be fools for love, and we may do foolish things in the name of love, but valuing and wanting and seeking LOVE does not make us foolish. We are not winning any Oscars for most coolly distant and removed, most un-needful of help, or connection or companionship. Romantic love is not the only avenue to the good stuff we share with others, to connection and meaning. But it is one way, and it is a way many of us desire. And that is not wrong.
So today let’s celebrate all the GOOD things that Love is, together. The rom com moments and the deep drama. The warms arms in your bed, the person to hear all of your secrets. The giddy wonder, the seasoned trust. The golf buddy, the lover. The lingering conversation over vino. The dating nerves, the happy dances. The feeling that you are in IT together. Let’s shout it from the rooftops;
IT’S OKAY TO LOVE EACH OTHER.
It’s okay to love Love (even if it’s our secret affair).
We are all worthy of giving and receiving Love, in all kinds of ways.
And in that spirit let’s continue to work together to undo all of that old shit that love brings up, and all the hurty places we have forgotten about, or are scared to stitch up alone. And if we’re going to do it, this Love business, let’s give it all we’ve got. Let’s be braver and healthier and happier and invest in our hearts a little bit more this time around.
So from me to you, all the cinnamon hearts, chocolate and wine, on beds of rose petals.
You’re not alone because this Friday, I am in love with you!
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