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Do you find yourself

Repeating painful relationships and circumstances, but if you have to hear one more thing about the Law of Attraction you’re going to light the nearest copy of The Secret on fire and feed it to a goat? (I mean a goat with a throat of steel, because you’re not cruel, obviously).

Heart-broken and hanging on to someone who probably doesn’t deserve it and scared that you are wasting your sunny years, failing to grow a pair, the most foolish fool in Foolville, and if you somehow, please Lord Valentine, drag yourself out of it, there’s a solid chance that it’s just gonna, oh I dunno… happen again?

Getting a handle on the problem de jour, only to have it replaced by its bigger, badder-ass, cigarette smokin’ older-cousin problem from the Bronx before you get one second of glorious relief?

Like an ant, capable of carrying a hundred times its body weight, you got this, but then LIFE keeps piling it on, and you’re only an ant for the love of all things good and beautiful, you can’t carry one more thing, like seriously, keep that itty bitty ant-sized straw to yourself because this load is starting to shake!

Want to be enjoying the good things in life, you see them, like glorious, dangled carrots of joy, you are grateful for them, you’re not stupid or selfish, but you just feel shitty or angry or sad, or overwhelmed and you don’t know how to get out of it?

What didn’t kill you made you stronger, but it also made you kind of a jerk, or a hard-ass, or a hair-trigger block and deleter, or obsessively self-doubting, or a freakin’ radioactive superhero that no one can touch, but seriously you don’t let anyone near you and you’re lonely as f*@k?

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Like an ant, capable of carrying a hundred times its body weight, you got this, but then LIFE keeps piling it on, and you’re only an ant for the love of all things good and beautiful, you can’t carry one more thing, like seriously, keep that itty bitty ant-sized straw to yourself because this load is starting to shake!

Want to be enjoying the good things in life, you see them, like glorious, dangled carrots of joy, you are grateful for them, you’re not stupid or selfish, but you just feel shitty or angry or sad, or overwhelmed and you don’t know how to get out of it?

What didn’t kill you made you stronger, but it also made you kind of a jerk, or a hard-ass, or a hair-trigger block and deleter, or obsessively self-doubting, or a freakin’ radioactive superhero that no one can touch, but seriously you don’t let anyone near you and you’re lonely as f*@k?

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Imagine feeling good. Dot, dot, dot.

More often. More easily. Imagine that you feel lighter, unburdened even. Imagine feeling good within yourself, about yourself, confident in your ability to have healthy relationships.

Not a superhero, there’s still pain when you stub your toe, but the kinda good that allows you to feel sunny, that puts a pep-in-your step, gives you a reason to try. A little like “Little Miss Sunshine” -no matter what is going on with grandpa in the back seat, or the messed up world around you, you feel loved and supported, and competent at happy. And you aren’t going to miss your glorious moment.

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Imagine feeling good. Dot, dot, dot.

More often. More easily. Imagine that you feel lighter, unburdened even. Imagine feeling good within yourself, about yourself, confident in your ability to have healthy relationships.

Not a superhero, there’s still pain when you stub your toe, but the kinda good that allows you to feel sunny, that puts a pep-in-your step, gives you a reason to try. A little like “Little Miss Sunshine” -no matter what is going on with grandpa in the back seat, or the messed up world around you, you feel loved and supported, and competent at happy. And you aren’t going to miss your glorious moment.

I am Erin Butler, and I help good, good people like you, fix their shit, and feel better fast.

For the love of all things good and beautiful, for the love of your friends, and your families and your unborn children, and your ancestors, and the barista at Starbucks, and your goldfish, Ronnie. Let’s lessen this suffering.

It doesn’t have to feel this hard…and you don’t have to go it alone!

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You see, I know it’s not you.
 

You’re not broken, or flawed. Even if you are scared that you are. And every single one of us has been in your shoes. You just need a better way, and someone to walk you through it.

I am not going to label you, or diagnose you. I am not going to Reiki you, or align your chakras (though I know cool people that can do all of that stuff if that is what you are looking for!).

Seriously, I have helped people whose stories could have employed a circuit of sleazy talk show hosts for the better part of a decade, and I have helped people with pretty “lucky” unbringings whose shit hit the fan for different reasons. It doesn’t matter how you got here, just that we get you out of it, the sooner, the better.

So what do I do? I mentor and counsel people. You can call me whatever you like 😉. I have had clients call me their personal development coach, their therapist, their guru, their spiritual teacher. If you put teacher, coach and therapist in blender with some chocolate and stevia, it would look a lot like me without makeup.

I use words like “emotions” and “healing”. I am going to help you rebuild your emotional “engine” so that it keeps working on its own with some basic maintenance. In the process we are going to repair some of the components that got fried when it was overheated, out of oil, that kinda thing.

But you don’t have to worry about that part. You just need to show up, with a little willingness. I’ll take it from there.

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But how does this differ from other forms of coaching?

People go to coaches to create change and achieve goals, either with the help of boot-camp tough-love, mindset development, or some form of motivational help. I solve for resistance. I go straight to undoing the obstacles that block us in the first place. My clients are seeking to feel better when they begin working with me, but they also get all of those lovely “goals” and accomplishments as side effects of the work we do. It’s easier to resolve the inner chaos than to hurtle over it on the hour as you plow through your Daytimer list. Don’t get me wrong – there are amazing goal-oriented coaches out there – if you want help with scalable predictive analytics for your business, don’t come to me! Or the rate that your peptides will break down your lipids forty seconds after you down a kale protein smoothie, I’m not gonna get that right, but wanna stop downing three bags of cookies in a sitting or sabotaging your biz and relationship goals – I’m your gal.

What about therapy?

I think there are areas that psychology does well, as there are areas that MD’s cover well. But when I hurt my ankle and it wasn’t broken, it was the physios and the alignment specialists that made the difference. I fill what I observe to be a big GAP, in how we understand ourselves and our emotions. I won’t diagnose you, or write you or prescription to manage your pain, but I’ll get you running again, metaphorically speaking.

I have had many psychologists as clients, and my work has been supported by medical doctors and psychologists of my clients. I am not here to replace those roles but to augment wellness, and to help in a different way.

How long does it take to get results?

It depends on your needs and circumstances and our pace. Once I worked with an artist for two weeks and she went from three jobs, struggle and distress to an overnight success. But that is not the norm. I prefer to have three to six months with a client. Typically we can create lasting foundational change in that time period, and the rest is miso gravy. You may have amazing things happening a lot sooner than that, but why quit before you have received your share of miracles? I have a vested interest in giving you the big time, long time payoff.

Do we have to meet in person? Can we meet in person?

No we don’t, but yes we can! For many clients the phone is time efficient and comfortable, but some like the ceremony of meeting in person. They want a break from their insufferable husbands and wives, to visit my adorable dog, or to critique my abominable housekeeping for a quick ego boost (I jest). Or they just like my perfume. Whatever your preference I can usually accommodate, unless I am travelling. But the process itself works just as well either way. I have clients from all kinds of places, many of whom I have met heart to heart, but never face to face.

What if my stuff is too heavy or I am beyond help?

No one is beyond help, in my view. One of my strange gifts involves seeing you clear of the muck; your family’s dark secrets, your dark secrets, your traumas. I know what you did last summer and I am here to protect you from the bad guy who keeps lording it over you with his creepy whisper. I understand the sadness, the grief, the loss, the crazy behaviour. We can walk you through and out of it, laugh, cry, and make it better. However, there are some situations that require additional help. If you are too sad to get out of bed in the morning to come see me, or even pick up the phone, then we are gonna need a doc to get you some “better living through chemistry” to tide us over until our work together can have an effect. Or another inspired solution, but you catch my drift. If you’re not sure, you can ask me. I hear it all, and I don’t judge.

Can you get my lost love to come back to me?

I don’t make promises, and I don’t set “getting her back” as a goal. But we can bring out the “best potential” of the situation, by resolving your side of what broke between you. Sometimes this change is felt by the other half in a conflict or break up, and it allows for a new dynamic in the partnership and a willingness to try again. At very least you will feel better, healthier, and won’t be recreating the whole mess with the next pretty girl or boy who catches your eye.

Is this a spiritual process? Does it matter if I am Catholic, or Atheist?  

My work is focused on the emotional experience. You can be Catholic, Atheist, or worship Yoda, and that won’t limit our success. I am willing to and will share my understanding of “the meaning of life 101” for those who are seeking spiritual answers. After all, you can’t source out and resolve emotional pain for a living without considering the bigger, deeper questions. My intent is to get you where you need to be as efficiently as possible, which will differ for each client.

How can I get the most from my experience?  

For me, when I choose a coach or a mentor there is an alchemy that happens. It isn’t about their perfect track record or my history, but rather what we can create together when we both trust and respect each other and the relationship. I paid a lot of money to the last coach I hired, and though there may have been some swankier credentials out there, he and I worked some serious magic together. I also learned a long time ago not to make your helper your scape goat. I don’t want to blame someone else, even a little, for why it didn’t work. I just want it to work. Getting out of your own head and bringing on an ally and an expert is great way to make it work. Trust and ownership of your results seal the deal. I remind myself that this person wants my stuff to shine, that’s how we all thrive, and they have expertise and objectivity to get me there.

Are you taking on private clients right now?

Even if my rotation is full, I will be setting up the next one. And if your situation is urgent I will do my best to get you in right away. I don’t like to leave people in distress hanging. Send me a message and I will let you know within 48 hours. Let me know if it’s urgent and I will bump you up the triage list and try to reach out to you same day.

Do you offer help with businesses and career?

Your business, like your career, is an extension of your relationship with yourself, and getting that running in top order, benefits nearly everyone. In fact, one of my long term clients is an award winning top level business coach who speaks to the need to bring my process to all of the big biz problems. However, if you are looking for counsel in the practicalities of biz decisions, I will steer you elsewhere, or you can work jointly with myself and another coach. Just send me a note.  If you are experiencing struggles with your business or career and traditional strategies aren’t working or don’t appeal, it’s probable that there is something deeper at work, and I can definitely help with that. It’s no good paying top dollar for career advice that feels overwhelming, undoable, or gets you stuck.

Do you offer a sliding scale for those who cannot afford your prices?

Talk to me and I will help structure our work so as to make it make financial sense for you. I do give some concession for struggling single parents.

Do you offer corporate engagements?  

Yes. I am available for Enlightened Lunches; Wellness Initiatives; Intuitive Team Building; and Staff Appreciations. If you have a need, send me a note and we can dream up an inspired and meaningful experience for you. I am also available to “emotionally audit” your corporate or business culture.

What if I screw it up?

You can’t. The only way you can fail this process is not engage in it, and even that is just a matter of readiness. You can’t underperform, and the fear of backsliding or underperforming; the fear that there is something failing in you that will “fail” to feel better, is simply a symptom of what we’re going to fix.

LEVEL ONE

Strategy Session

Intended to get you through a crisis, short-term situation, or big decision; to tide you over until you are ready for deeper work. It includes a 90 minute session, written follow-up, custom exercises and two weeks of text/email support.

We meet, in person, by phone or by Skype.

You spill your guts, tell me all the things, unburden your poor stressed out and overloaded brain of whatever has gone down.

I listen, hear, absorb, and help you out of your distress, confusion or overwhelm.

I help you gain perspective, put down whatever weapon you’ve been wielding in your own defence but is actually whizzing dangerously close to your throat.

I help you with what you need to see, understand, focus on, and resolve to serve your life, your needs, your health, and all of those relationships under your care and influence.

Then, while you are calming down, breathing out, cancelling your plane ticket to Siberia, crawling out of your blankie fort and recuperating over a glass of Cab or under a tower of bath suds, I lovingly create a strategy for you.

I take all of those great revelations and understandings we just arrived at and put them into actual written words you can go back and read and re-read, when your brain is no longer on auto-shred.

I also devise and articulate a plan for you moving forward, to steer you out of troubled water and toward better-feeling empowered choice making.

I also include personalized exercises, that are easy to follow and apply, to get you over any hurdles that may be tripping you up – all of those “hurty” places that we don’t realize are getting in our way.

THEN you still have me for another two full weeks, by email and text to support you while everything smooths out, gets back on track, or at least wriggles back under your umbrella of care.

All of this for only $500.

LEVEL TWO

The Essentials

This one is where the big-time, long-time life altering transformation happens.

You’ve had enough of your particular brand of heart-ache, and you’re ready to see how much better you can feel when someone who can see all of the light within you (that’s me – no offence Gram), who understands the machinery of pain and suffering and the root of yours (me again), makes you her personal study (in a devoted but not creepy way), gets to work at disassembling that machinery, and reveals your brilliant, deserving life story. Groundhog day is over, my friends. When change is affected at the root of what ails us, when hurt and brokenness is healed, everything on the outside has the potential to shine (that’s you!).

To do this most effectively and make the most efficient use of our resources (that means your time, my time, our energy, and your moolah), I include:

  • Introductory assessment and background review
  • Your weekly or bi-weekly 90 minute session (in person, by phone or by Skype)
  • Your personalized program
  • Materials and handouts
  • Exercises personalized for your needs
  • Written session follow-up
  • Text and email support

In addition you get all of those lovely things that come with mentoring and counseling services; a safe place of non-judgement to share and be heard; experienced guidance from an equal who has walked the walk; decision making support (can’t count how many relationships have been rescued from block and delete by this one); emotional support – the kind your best friend (god know she means well) cannot give you because (bless her sweet soul) she is projecting her stuff onto you without at all meaning to; and the kind of clarity and peace that come from knowing you don’t have to figure it out alone anymore (praise be) and you have broken the feedback loop!

The Process:

We meet, either in person, by phone or by Skype. By now you have probably spilled your guts a little, or at least given me some clues as to what is not on your “raindrops on roses” list. You spill the rest of your guts or at least provide me with the next instalment of clues.

The first two sessions get you some relief, and give me the background I need to UNDO, fix, make better, help heal – the hard stuff. I drudge things up, but for OH SO SHORT of a time. Because we are only looking at it to fix it, NOT to set up camp there, or point fingers, or get out the lab coats, but we also don’t want to keep IT (the hurty stuff) running in the background and exhausting your emotional bandwidth.

You TRUST me, even if you find my methods a little unconventional. Already some of this is starting to make sense and sink in. You go off to your daily world with a strategic application that will help us progress. I don’t overload you. It’s not elementary school. No one gets shamed for undone homework (you are hard enough on yourself!). We work at your pace.

I create strategies, and personalized exercises. I write follow ups which recap our brilliant insights in written re-readable digestible words. I learn your language. We become besties.

I provide you with a brief history of what they didn’t teach you in elementary, I unteach you what they taught you wrong. I follow with the meaning of life, the square root of cake, and how to wrap the game.

This is the big deal. Where my inner ninja meets yours. I become Yoda. You master the Force. Someone somewhere destroys an evil ring.

I don’t know what your miracle is going to look like yet. But I’m chomping at the bit to find out.

You feel better about yourself, your life, your circumstances. You no longer feel damaged, destructive or destroyed, angry, confused, stuck. THINGS feel easier. You are scared less often. You understand. Your burden lifts. Pain is not heavy anymore. You figure out how to have healthy relationships, with yourself, your beloved, your business, your body. You feel safe and cared for.

This is the part where you say actual things to me like “You have erased 34 years of damage.” “This is the best money I have ever spent” “My daughter hugged me for the first time since she was 2”. “I’m no longer constantly angry at the kids” “I’m a better person, thanks to you.” “I actually like having sex with my husband again” “I came in top of my sales team and won the competition” “I am finally able to write the book” “I have never been this productive”  “You have inspired me to create an entirely new business and follow through on it” “I don’t know how it happened, my work just started feeling good again”  “My daughter’s nightmares have completely stopped and she is sleeping in her bed again” “My ex and I are no longer in conflict. In fact we are friends” “I have gone from working 3 jobs to an overnight success in the art world” “I have never felt so peaceful” “I have stopped running from relationship”  “I know longer feel shame over the abuse” “I have released a thousand pounds of confusion and guilt” “I have discovered my own path of helping others” “I can finally see what I was doing in relationship and now bring that to my patients” “I’ve stopped overthinking, overanalyzing and being so hard on myself”.

We hug. We cheer. I float away on a cloud of whiskers on kittens, wanting to help the whole world. You tell two friends and they tell two friends. Everyone has a good hair day.

Our work is done. I am here for you when you need. To heal the next thing. Take on the next challenge. Or for an occasional tweak or sounding board session.

Programs starting at $600 monthly.

LEVEL THREE

The V.I.P.

This one is the Oscar of transformational experiences – your own personal red carpet rollout to the spectacular you.

You simply happen to NEED the “best of everything” level of support right now, for your own, secret personal reasons.

Or because you have been OH SO BADLY craving more YOU in your life, time to place the world on hold for a while and just pour some sugar on Y-O-U. You have given, given, given (yourself, your love, your time, your mojo) or taken (the challenges, the demands, the shit and abuse), and then taken on more (patiently, then begrudgingly, but silently).

Or you have simply had too much on your well worn Ikea plate, and it’s not holding up well under the strain. You keep promising to make it up to yourself, but the “I-Owe-Me” box is overflowing on par with socks at the bottom of the “Nineteen Kids and Counting” laundry basket.

I am not here to gloss over it or judge it. I am here to swoop in with a giant “Sorry” sign for all your dear ones, and for the outside world. You have deserved it for a long time, a life makeover, YOUR personal before and after. No one is getting any younger here and we all deserve some GRACE. Sooner than later.

And, it’s not easy to pull off an amazing new you when you are elbow deep in toilet water with a Cheerio stuck to your face, mocking your competence at Life Hacks for Dummies. There’s an affirmation somewhere if you just reach for it, but your inner cheerleader is down a pom-pom, it’s possibly clogging the very toilet you are cheek to cheek with, and so WE —me and that saner part of you that I can see but you just flushed with a bottle of Drano— WE take over, and we make things sacred and holy again.

The Process works much like the essentials program above. As in… you get all of it, nothing gets removed, there are no trade offs,  BUT, and it’s a big BUT (I cannot lie ;)… you also get an entire INTENSIVE, one-on-one, epiphany-creating, RETREAT. With me.

That is an add on. A retreat, that you can take either as a day a month or bank for a weekend-long extravaganza, during which I am your captive audience. You can ask me, share with me, and squeeze every last drop of insight and wisdom and twenty years of practice out me, while we do wondrous, MAGICAL, trip-to-Mecca, HOLY GRAIL finding things together. Things that are secret club kinda stuff. Things that are designed to flip your world toward the sun, while gluing on your new eyelashes, or carnauba waxing your mustachios.

And the fun extras continue…

You also get a Crisis Card. A crisis card gets you a VIP level bump to the TOP of my triage list (that means my next free moment barring hospital level stuff is yours). You send me a red alert. I call you up ASAP, and we sort through your emergency, or your low point, and get you out of fear and distress, apply wisdom, weed out the crazy and painful thoughts and notions, and get you back on your A game. AND you get to walk around your daily world with that safety in your pocket, knowing that if shit hits the fan, or feels too scary, I am just a short message away, protecting all of the sprouts we are tenderly nurturing into creation.

You also get an INTUITIVE STRATEGY SESSION. Yes, I’m going to go there, because in all the history of including it, no one has not LOVED it. Even the skeptics, even the Atheists. Because it is good for us, to shut of the strong-armed reasoning, prone-to-overthinking part of ourselves. This can be applied to your BIZ, your family, your love life, your curiosity about that lifetime you were an Egyptian Queen; whatever is important and meaningful to you (no GOATS will be harmed I promise- I love goats, especially the ones that dance around my FB pages in PJ’S eating daisies and spreading merriment).

DIRECT AND STAR in this new, award winning production. Give yourself the space, process and guidance to reinvent your life path, connect to your deeper soul self, awaken unexplored gifts, recreate your marriage or your life in a foundational way, but with the secret sauce (thank you I worked my whole life on that recipe) that will amaze, and then stick.

By Application Only.

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“Thank you so wholeheartedly Erin for all the help, support and love you are providing me with. I feel so much is coming to light for me and I can feel myself changing into the soul I am meant to be. Sending you joyous love.”

— F.I.

“Don’t hesitate to contact Erin. She is thoughtful, insightful, spiritual, healing. I would highly recommend. And I don’t take my reviews lightly… She has a gift.”

— Heidi Delf, Calgree Apparel Founder

“Erin is wonderful. She helped me to grow a lot when I was doing personal healing with her. She is an amazing person and her work is fabulous. Although I am far from Calgary now, I still use her service when I have some healing to do. Thank you Erin.”

— Amelie Gauthier, Service Industry